Give Up Trying To Fit In.

Posted on Feb 1, 2016

Give Up Trying To Fit In.


If you haven’t noticed yet, there is only one you.

As much as you’d like to think that you’re just like everyone else, you’re not.

The hard part is staying you.

What I mean is people will try to talk you out of being you. Most people want you to be “normal” or to “fit in”, but that just means giving up your personal freedom and conforming or becoming invisible.

Seth Godin, bestselling author and world-class marketing expert says,”Fitting in is a short term strategy. Standing out pays off in the long run.”

Give up trying to fit in. This is your greatest advantage.

The truth is, no matter how you slice it, you are 100% unique. You are not some hodgepodge compilation of other people’s ideas. Your thoughts and ideas are your own.  And you know what else? Everything you think, feel, or do matters. Everything.

Have you been hiding from you? Five signs that you are not being you:

  1. You wake up listless and don’t love what you are doing with your life.
  2. You are trying to please everyone.
  3. You think you do not deserve to be happy.
  4. You find ways to hide from others or lie about how you are feeling.
  5. You forgot your dreams.

Look closely.

You are a passenger in a very intricate, noble and majestic vessel. Your human body is a shell that houses your pizzazz and you are hurdling through space having an adventure of a lifetime. Even if you never leave your house life is an adventure. The question is are you willing to live into the life you have been given?

In the book, The Art of Non-Conformity, Chris Guillebeau argues that, “you don’t have to live your life the way other people expect you to. You can do good things for yourself and make the world a better place at the same time.”

Where Did You Go?

It’s not unusual for very confident and successful people to feel like frauds or feel unfulfilled.

I once worked with one of the best marketing experts and public speakers in the nation, we’ll call him Bill. Bill told me he felt like a fraud because he was insecure about his work. I asked him why he felt insecure when everything pointed to success? He told me that he didn’t believe life was supposed to be so easy!

When I asked him what that meant Bill explained, “I was trying to conform to my audiences’ needs, or at least what I thought they wanted. They got bored. I thought I was a failure and the more I tried to fit in and not offend anyone, the less popular I became.”  Finally Bill gave in and started doing public speaking gigs the way he wanted to: with music and crazy outfits and fun ice-breakers. Low and behold he became very successful. After a short coaching session Bill not only realized he deserved success, but that his joy rippled out to everyone he met.

Being You Makes Others Happy. 

There are 7.2 billion people in the world and counting. We wonder how we can make a difference. We make a difference by serving as examples. One of the greatest examples you can set: being bold enough to be yourself.

“Be yourself. The world worships the original.” ~Ingrid Bergman


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